Take a Step Back to Save your Relationship

Never one to not follow my own advice, I realized a missing piece to the actual strategy on how to get your ex back (and that's why you are here)

In order to move forward, you need to step back.

If your relationship is not working out the way you had planned, or if it had already ended, have heart.  You need to rediscover yourself before recommitting yourself to someone.

When break ups happen, there is usually one person who wants to put things back together again.  If the other party is not ready for this, then there is not much you can do about it.  This means


Stop calling them, emailing, texting or even working on the friends angle.  It doesn't work.  If your partner or ex wants time apart, do so.  Pushing yourself onto them will drive them further away

Trust me, I am following the same rules as you and I have broken them only to have bad results.   But I can tell you this:
By stepping back and re-assessing the relationship that once was, you are in a better position to think about yourself, your needs and wants and to see where it actually did go wrong.  In the meantime, your ex will start to let go of the negative emotions. Recall a time when you were mad at someone, did you not find that after time the positive qualities of who they were had started to shine through?  The same thing as a break up.
Lets face it, even the best of us coolest cucumbers can become someone that we truly aren't, which is suspicious, self conscious, jaded and bitter.  You over-analyze, obsess, beg, cry and you lose CONTROL. Your friends and loved ones will notice it too.  So why don't you put down that phone, put down the keyboard and urge yourself not to check up on them?  You want your ex to see the person they know and fell in love with, not the one they couldn't wait to run from.  
Reconnecting with your ex is not easy, but the main thing to remember is breathe.  If they really did have those lovey dovey feelings rooted within them when it comes to you, then taking a break could be the lifesaver for your relationship.

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