The Do's and Don'ts of No Contact- Continued


Thank you everyone for the recent interest in learning more about The No Contact Rule.  I wanted to extend this post to include a few questions that were asked through your searches.

I want to state that the No-Contact Principle is not for everyone.  If you still have residual business to take care of, you work with them or if you have children, then no contact would not be for you.  I will cover Limited Contact in a future post and how to use it to your advantage.

For now, here are a few additional tips.

How can I stay strong during the no-contact phase?- Stopping contact with an ex  is a difficult process, and if your emotions are still unstable, you may find calling  their voice mail or sending emails.  Once you decide to go no contact, you need to  stick with it.  Why? As mentioned in the previous post, you need to show your  strength.  And in doing so, you become more attractive to your ex.   Here are a few  ways to stop calling them:

1- Introduce yourself to your friends again.   Also, if you have someone in your life  that will keep you accountable, then give your phone to them... or switch sim cards.  

2- Keep a calendar and mark off the days in which you have not contacted them.  In  fact, keeping a journal during the first month or so will help you collect your  feelings.  You will find in time that you will become less intrigued in counting the 
days  and more in living your life.  

3- Get involved.  Spend your time helping others.  Volunteer.  Get back in the gym,  or take a class.  Make yourself useful more and you will find that the heartache will  pass in time.  You may find new interests that will help you enrich your heart and mind.  Never be afraid of doing something new.




Should you tell the ex not to contact you?  - As mentioned... if you find yourself unable to communicate with them or if they are giving you false signals, then no  contact may be the way to go.  Personally I have told an ex in the past not to contact  me because the constant bickering of the last month was not healthy for either of us.     Make it clear as to why you wish to cease contact and then stick to it.  

How long after does an ex call you?-  Well that does depend.  Some may contact  you within a week, a month or sometimes never.  The average cycle of a dumper to  miss you is about 6-8 weeks.   It is also dependent on how good the relationship  was.  Notice that I did not mention the length.  You can work things out regardless of time.    



I want to point this out- The No Contact rule alone is not used to get your ex back. IT should be used first to get yourself back.   This is important because life is too short  and wasn't the person your ex fell for the person you were in the past?  Getting back together is not an easy task and you need to be prepared.  

How can you prepare?  Well you can simply click over --------> to one of the wonderful ebook programs on how to get your ex back.  

Till next time, have a wonderful day and be good to yourself.  Breakups are hard, but it does get better.



    To add: I wanted to add a few books that you can also buy from Amazon regarding No Contact.   They are female in mind, but a lot of information is stored there that can help you.  They include: 





            

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