Sometimes, it's best to let go.

When you Shouldn't Get back with your Ex

I was reading an email from Michael Griswold a few days ago and  he raised an interesting point.  Getting back with your ex is possible in all cases, but only if you truly want to. However, there are instances when you shouldn't try to get your ex back.    One of the main red flags is being in a toxic/abusive relationship.

If you have ever watched Jersey Shore, you can see how two of the characters Ron and Sam should not be together.  They pick on each other hourly, create ugly fights and Ron happens to get into more physical confrontations than most.  I was watching an episode a few weeks ago with friends and we all gasped when the whole show was focussed on one of the most brutal break ups ever.  Whether it was acting or not, that was the classic case of a toxic relationship. 


 Unsure that you are in a Toxic relationship?  Here are a few signs: 

  • They never compliment you, in fact they put you down in public
  • You are alienated from your friends and family
  • You have no comfort or security in your life with your partner.  If you are being threatened, then you need to leave immediately.
  • You can't remember a time when you were actually happy with your partner.
  • If there is any form of substance abuse that is impacting your relationship.



If you have broken up multiple times without learning from your mistakes, then you could be possibly in a toxic relationship.  You may be able to fix this relationship, but you should sit down and figure out as to why.  Not everyone will the person for you, and sometimes you do not want to end up in a bitter battle like you see with Charlie Sheen and his family are in currently.  The best strategy would be simply to let go with love.


Reconciling with your ex is certainly possible. but if you are pleading, stalking, crying about a situation that you did not have control of, then you will not achieve what you want.  Not every relationship is salvageable, so before you try to approach your ex, figure out if this is exactly what you want.  If it happens to be a relationship that brought you more bad times than good, then perhaps it is time to simply let go.

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