How to get your Ex Back in 100 Days
About 6 months ago I read a message board post about how she got her ex back in 100 days. While this doesn't always work, I wanted to share some strategies with you briefly on how she is now reunited with a confused ex who really did need some space.
1- She defined the boundaries - When her boyfriend at the time was being distant and showing the classic breakup behaviors, she allowed it to happen for a few weeks before approaching him. He said that he needed some time alone to figure out his life. The constant badgering and lack of communication that deteriorated the relationship had put a heavy toll on his belief that the relationship could work. When he finally told her, she did what we seem to forget. She was classy, not crazy. It was then that she made it clear on her feelings and told him that the door was open, the porch light was on and when he was ready to work things out she would welcome him back.
2- She went No-Contact- Yes it is possible to do so. After that night, she did not contact him. No texts, emails, phone calls, nothing. Other than bumping into him in town a few times and an occasional text from him, she never broke her cool. Does it mean that it didn't bother her? Of course it did. However, those 3 months of not talking helped get her life back. She saw her mistakes and where things went wrong. It also allowed her to establish her own identity again.
3- She allowed him to come back without any expectations. This is crucial because if someone has broken up with you and you are still holding grudges based on the past, the new relationship will fail. Sure they had their talks on what went wrong the first couple of weeks after, but it was him that made the move to get her back. It was simple as a phone call where he asked to come over and see her. She accepted, opened the door when he approached the drive way, gave him a hug and said " welcome home" .
It sounds too good to be true and sometimes you need to wait more than 100 days if ever for it to happen, but if you take anything away form this it is that you must set clear boundaries, be patient and most of all live your life. Most of all, you have to eliminate the negative energy that is bringing you down from any progress towards any relationship. In the end, it will serve you greatly if you decide to be classy and kind.
1- She defined the boundaries - When her boyfriend at the time was being distant and showing the classic breakup behaviors, she allowed it to happen for a few weeks before approaching him. He said that he needed some time alone to figure out his life. The constant badgering and lack of communication that deteriorated the relationship had put a heavy toll on his belief that the relationship could work. When he finally told her, she did what we seem to forget. She was classy, not crazy. It was then that she made it clear on her feelings and told him that the door was open, the porch light was on and when he was ready to work things out she would welcome him back.
2- She went No-Contact- Yes it is possible to do so. After that night, she did not contact him. No texts, emails, phone calls, nothing. Other than bumping into him in town a few times and an occasional text from him, she never broke her cool. Does it mean that it didn't bother her? Of course it did. However, those 3 months of not talking helped get her life back. She saw her mistakes and where things went wrong. It also allowed her to establish her own identity again.
3- She allowed him to come back without any expectations. This is crucial because if someone has broken up with you and you are still holding grudges based on the past, the new relationship will fail. Sure they had their talks on what went wrong the first couple of weeks after, but it was him that made the move to get her back. It was simple as a phone call where he asked to come over and see her. She accepted, opened the door when he approached the drive way, gave him a hug and said " welcome home" .
It sounds too good to be true and sometimes you need to wait more than 100 days if ever for it to happen, but if you take anything away form this it is that you must set clear boundaries, be patient and most of all live your life. Most of all, you have to eliminate the negative energy that is bringing you down from any progress towards any relationship. In the end, it will serve you greatly if you decide to be classy and kind.
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