Why letting go could reset a Broken Relationship



Hi everyone, it has been a while.  A lot has happened that has changed my personal life, and I hope that one day that you too can finally say, I’m fine where I am.


I have been looking at what people search for when their exes break up with them and of course it involves how to get your ex back fast. I want to tell you that unless you were silly one night and made a bad decision, you will not get your ex back right away.  It will take a while, and using the strategies of no contact or even low contact will work in your favor.  You need to be smart about it.  Letting your emotions decide rather than logic will only help the dumper believe that their decision was correct.

I’ll give you a brief story. A few years ago I was dating someone who was funny, educated, handsome and very much an intellectual.  At that time, I thought that I found my match. After 18 months of a back and forth relationship,  I cut contact and walked away . No mess, no fuss, I did not tell him "I'm going on no-contact, or don't talk to me again", I just stopped all contact.   It was required, since loving someone unconditionally didn't bring the same return.  It was time to look after myself.

Seven months later and after a few attempts of contact from his side , (mostly casual, an occasional text)  we finally had a real conversation. It was fresh, new and the feelings of anger, resentment and loss were gone.  The opportunity to begin new was there if either of us wanted to take it.

 While he and I did not pursue another relationship, I can tell you that neither have the desire to live in the past.  Let go, and see where your life takes you.    It will change not just yourself but the direction that the past relationship once had.

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